December 14, 2012

Girl with no manners

Well you might wanna call me like that now. Why? You'll see at the end of this post.

So recently I joined up with a local blogging community called Blogger Energy that I thought was fun enough. I was so happy when the founder finally accepted me as one of the members and at that moment, I introduced myself using half Bahasa half English. I told them I'm not used to speak in Bahasa when writing on my blog nor in the Facebook group. At least, not that often except on short chats like on Twitter. Everytime we have discussion on Sunday, I always end up being a silent reader since I don't want to look like an "attention driver" if I comment on a topic using English. There's this feeling where I feel more comfortable when I write everything in English cuz I find modesty in it and, because I have more cool English vocabularies than Bahasa ones. But people would end up underestimating me and ignore me afterwards. I can understand that not every people get to know what I talk and I have to pay respect to those who slowly get my words. But what I've felt for several days being a "stranger" in this community just doesn't make sense.

Another matter, in BE, we have rules; if you want to promote your new blog post, you have to do blogwalking afterwards to the rest of the members who also promote their posts. I always, I repeat, always do blogwalking after I put my latest post there. I even have tried to comment each of them using Bahasa eventhough it's really nothing—I mean, my grammar must be wrong at some points but that's okay. I felt like there were 5 or 8 blogs I visited but the ones that came back to me were only 1 or 2. I don't know, is it because my blog posts are written in English or is it because they have no respect to me?

Today when I just reached home after getting back from school and checked out BE's Facebook wall, I read another comment from other member that was directed to me, saying I shouldn't do live link when I leave comments on his blog. He said it would make his blog's rank decreasing in Google SE. Dude, at least I commented and talked no shits about your blog post. Why can't you just say 'thank you' or 'visit me back' or even 'hey Nava, your blog is amazing as well!', like that?! I got really pissed.

I'm sure as hell his passion in blogging is nothing. Well, at least compared to mine. He can't respect how other would comment on his blog. And he didn't even pay me back a visit. He only care about his blog's page rank on Google, which is also depend on the visitors, which in other words, including ME as well. Oh is this how Indonesian people really are? Please, I didn't even understand what you talked back then but I kept on commenting cuz I thought you'd interested to hear my thoughts.

See? I told you, you'd end up calling me "girl with no manners" ;)

36 comments:

  1. Absolutely love your blog! So inspirational!
    Would you like to follow each other on GFC, twitter and Bloglovin!
    So we can keep in touch!!
    XOXO
    http://hindsfashionstateofmind.blogspot.nl/

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  2. You are a King of your mind, din.. Don't let other people "menguasai" your mind.. understand??

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    1. Thank's. But that doesn't help at all.

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  3. I agree with you. Why can't he just say Thanks? At least your comments are relevant to the blog posts because I've seen some who just leave comments without even reading the blog?! And their comments are just off the hook.

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  4. keep being cool, girl. No one could forced us to pick, literally anything. You're post is gorgeous, just keep being yourself is amazing. :)

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  5. omg!! i cant believe that would happen. people are so rude! just keep posting and commenting.. it's a slow cycle, but itll grow. i'm experiencing this myself

    xx



    http://www.facebook.com/SpoonfulOfDiamonds
    http://spoonfulofdiamonds.blogspot.com

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  6. Wow, I don't realize there's such a forum for Indonesian blogger. I'd say don't pay them any attention. You should keep in touch with people who respect you! Cheers, dear. I'm also from Indonesia and writing in English, although not that good lol

    Caroline
    http://missoline.blogspot.com

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  7. adinda..
    something normal..
    just ignore him/she.
    do what you can afford.
    You can try to ask the admin about this problem.
    about saying the "words".

    anyway..goodluck dear

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  8. just found ur blog and its cute :)
    would u like to follow each other?

    BREEPLUSE.BLOGSPOT.COM

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  9. My feelings on blogger comnents...I understand that we all have busy lives, but if I take the time to comment on a blogger's blog on a regular basis, I expect her/him to at least have the decency and respect to comment back occasionally. Some of these "big name" bloggers think that they are above that, so I just stop commenting. That is my rant for the day :)

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  10. I will be pissed up too id I was you :D
    wanna follow each other maybe?


    xoxo
    ayudamayanthi.blogspot.com

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    1. Oh I'm already pissed at that moment. But I believe it's just a small matter that I shouldn't really think about. Blogging for me is something that free away my soul so I don't care if others ask me to blog in other language :)

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  11. That's really mean. I've been hearing a lot of these kind of issues in the blogging world. There are really bloggers who don't appreciate comments or even take your comments as "spam" of whatever. Never mind them though. Don't let the bad vibes take over :) Have a great day!

    Arra
    http://arraabella.blogspot.com

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  12. Hi Dear! Thank you so much for lovely comment. Sure we can follow each other, I´m following now so hope you´ll do the same ♥
    http://chilli-chocolate.blogspot.com

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  13. Omg. Don't care of those rude bloggers. Communities with rules are often a bit like that. You will find your friendly bloggers from the blogsphere little by little.
    There are also 100's of those who ask if you would like to follow each other, and then they will never follow back >< !
    I didn't know that giving links decreases your SEO rank... but if so, I'm giving my link in text format hehe ;D

    x, Lara
    http://rockteraptor.blogspot.fi/

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  14. lovely blog.
    http://xtheperfectmess.blogspot.com.au

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  15. Whaowwww... <~ satu kata pertama yang terpikirkan di otak.

    Masalah bahasa memang terkadang bisa jadi rumit bisa jadi sederhana, karena pada dasarnya bahasa adalah kesepakatan. Jika memang ternyata forum tersebut menunjukkan sikap 'tidak sepakat', berarti bahasa itu bisa jadi belum bisa diterima oleh mereka.

    Terkadang memang yang minoritas perlu di maklumi, tapi rasanya akan lebih bijak jika justru yang minoritas itu yang menyesuaikan. Saya sudah beberapa bulan tinggal di daerah yang bahasa kesehariannya sama sekali tidak saya mengerti. Tapi belakangan saya belajar sedikit demi sedikit bahasa mereka, dan sangat terlihat kalau mereka sangat merasa dihargai dengan saya menggunakan bahasa mereka, walaupun hanya beberapa kata dan itupun banyak salahnya. Jadi, tidak ada salahnya untuk mencoba bukan?

    Poin utamanya adalah apa yang kita sampaikan dapat diterima dengan baik. Jika ada pilihan, yang pertama menggunakan bahasa inggris dengan baik dan benar tapi pendengar tidak bisa memahami, sedangkan pilihan lainnya menggunakan bahasa indonesia yang mungkin agak kacau grammarnya tapi secara makna bisa ditangkap, mengapa tidak mencoba pilihan kedua?

    Maaf komentar saya terlalu panjang. Anyway, Glad to know you, Dinda :)

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  16. nice blog! okay, I follow you and now it's your turn ;)
    mbmalie.blogspot.com

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  17. Don't worry, your blog is AMAZING! love it! <3
    thanks for visiting mine hehehe :)

    xx,
    http://www.christiebluee.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Christie, followed you back already! ^^

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  18. btw sure I would like to follow each other! Followed. followback ok ;)

    xx,
    http://www.christiebluee.blogspot.com

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  19. Hello!! thank you for your comment on my blog! im liking your blog too so far! specially with this post! :) i think you have an excellent way to write in order to be fresh and interesting! i even laugh a litte with this post
    Anyway im following you now!! hope you can follow me too! and stay in touch!
    kisses
    Ale
    www.amarama.com.mx

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  20. Thanks so much for your comment on my blog. Following you now on GFC and bloglovin, hope you can follow back =)

    http://lepetitplastique.blogspot.com/

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  21. You go girl (with no manners??hell no!)
    Before i piss you of i'll start with a huuuuuge thank you for commenting on my blog ;)
    Besides the joke i do appreciate it and of course i'd love to follow each other, just started.

    Love, Denise

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  22. Interesting post, nicely written. Haven't got any similar experience, but I get you ;)

    Sure we can follow each other, you have a nice blog. So, I am following you, hope you do the same.

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  23. You do have manners, that's jsut a really unfair experience! I would be so angry if I was you, so this is polite compared to what I would have written! Don't let it annoy you, you have an amazing blog and I'm a follower now :) Can't wait to future posts

    http://alittlebitunique.blogspot.co.uk/

    x

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  24. Hi! Thanks for your lovely comment.
    You have a great blog. :D
    I've followed yours.

    http://tasiawijayanti.blogspot.com/

    See you. xx

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  25. I don't get it, does it matter what language u write in as long as the person understands u?

    >> milna89.blogspot.com <<

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  26. Loved your page since ja ja am to follow you ..... I leave in a warm loving bj his little heart ....
    www.uanderesuascronicas.blogspot.com

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  27. thanks for your comment on my blog! i am now following you, would be lovely if you could back!

    www.downtownwolf.blogspot.co.uk

    xx

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  28. u have a nice blog ;)
    thanks for the comment, by the way. i already followed you, followback? :)


    itschintia.blogspot.com xo

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  29. Completly agreed with you ! Great think to do !

    http://jerseychase.com

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  30. Navaaaa... I understand it so well!!!!
    Grr, that's what some ppl say to me, why I'm using English in my blog.
    just like you said "blogging for me is something that free away my soul" yeeaa, it's about ourself. With english, I learn so many things.

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    1. Awe, I love it everytime you comment on one of my post and quote something from it! It gives me feeling that you really read it from top to toe, hehe :D There's really no other way for me to blog in other language than English. If I do that, how will other people from other countries understand it, right? :))

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  31. Hi Nava, thanks for dropping by my blog!
    I really wish I knew you months ago since I'm experiencing a similar event.
    But mever mind, cuek aja. your blog is amazing ;)
    Bisous!

    http://sequin-queen.blogspot.com

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